The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
If you have to name four self betrayals that you usually do to yourself, which will they be?
Speaking too much, believing too little
Hiding behind masks
Designing false realities
Delivering half of everything: half smiling, half caring, half creating, half working…
With The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz invites you to think and live at the opposite of all these. Our book summary is waiting to provide some more info about it. At least 30 quotes got visual and have been metamorphosed into nuggets. Don’t miss this! You are only four agreement steps away from the personal freedom.
Don Miguel Ruiz is a well-known author that dedicated his work to the ancient Toltec Masters, trying to improve life according to these beliefs. This international bestselling author has also written books like: The Mastery of Love, Prayers, and Beyond Fear.
PERSONAL FREEDOM / THE FOUR AGREEMENTS
The Four Agreements – A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom – A Toltec Wisdom Book has remained on the New York Times bestseller list for over 8 years.
Don Miguel Ruiz identifies the source of sorrow in life and suggests four agreements for a better life and self-improvement. All those four agreements are based on the Aztec wisdom as a source of positive ideas and good lifestyle tips.
The Four Agreements is a wonderful book on self-improvement that reveals the ancient Aztec wisdom of Toltec. It establishes great ways to change our lives, great ideas with important impact over our lifestyle. Following the four agreements we can bring rapid positive changes in our life. It is a wonderful opportunity and a great challenge as well.
Our lives can turn from sad to happy and the author guides us in order to gain the wanted freedom. The Four Agreements are:
– Be impeccable with your word
– Don’t take anything personally
– Don’t make assumptions
– Always do your best
Human perception is in a good connection with the attention. In our dream we pay attention to different aspects of life. Also another psychological act is repetition. This is used as a way to retain and learn things. In a relationship we seem to need the ongoing attention of the ones we connect to. We seem to need more and more attention from the ones we love. So we usually do things that draw attention upon us.
God made us intelligent. (This is the easiest truth we are ready to admit).
Our intelligence is well reflected in our language, our capacity to speak and express opinions and beliefs. The most common definition of language is this one: a code, a list of signs convention, that helps us understand each other.
Beyond this obvious benefit, the language has also its positive and negative aspects, most often being a spontaneous expression of our spirit.
Each person has an Inner judge, that’s for sure. And this inner judge makes us feel guilty every time we do a mistake. Also the Victim is part of us that becomes aware of the guilt and punishment.
The individuals are in a continuous struggle to be perfect. But, let’s be honest. Is perfection even possible? With all our efforts, it is unlikely to fit or to be able to make perfection part of our lives. The guilt, the fear comes from the fact that we don’t succeed in being good enough for the people we love. Disappointment makes us feel bad. This is how domestication teaches us to try to be better.
Even though you have to give up old habits, the new improved life will prove you that it’s worth the effort.
And just like that, we go back to the key concept of Don Miguel Ruiz’s book: the Four Agreements :
- Be impeccable with your word. Keep your integrity when using words. Try to be true in what you say without compromising. You shouldn’t agree to ideas that are against you or gossip about others. The words should be used to spread love.
- Don’t take anything personally. Gain immunity over other people’s opinions about you. You shouldn’t consider, agree or be influenced by other people’s comments or gossips about you. Paying attention to what others say about you will make you a victim, so stop the needless suffering.
- Don’t make assumptions. In order to clarify situations, to bring light to conflicts, you should have the courage to ask questions and also express your thoughts. Communication is key to avoiding misunderstanding or assuming things.
- Always do your best. Doing your best depends entirely on you. It will not always be the same. For example you can be sick, that will probably make you give less, but the author’s advice is to do your best no matter the situation. Doing your best will improve your life and help others.
The author considers the fourth agreement by far the most important:
The true love that we yearn so much for can be gained if we accept the others the way they are. We have to stop wearing masks and pretend being something else:
‘Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them.’
Don Miguel Ruiz compares the ones that want to adopt these useful tips like spiritual warriors, that shall gain their freedom. We must fight against old emotional habits in order to gain our personal freedom.
Generally speaking the meeting with the free Spirit brings bliss. Myths, religions, spiritual acts, Way, Truth, imagination and dream all lead to cultural ecstasy.
These theories can become a healthy practice in our real lives, as the title suggest.
Toltec wisdom is very actual and useful for the modern society. It is not all about knowing the theory but experiencing them might change your lives. You can learn how to be impeccable with our words keeping your integrity.
Not taking things personally might save you from a lot of suffering. Not making assumptions might make you honest with yourself and the others.
Finally doing your best is the way to keep far from frustrations and judgment. Being a spiritual warrior is one more thing we learn and we can practice. The comparison shows us that giving up old emotional habits is not always easy and that it needs will and determination.
The book brings out ancient teachings very useful for our modern society and we can learn and apply these theories in order to gain our personal freedom.
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