The Game of Adversity: 8 Practices to overcome adversity
Imagine that you have to go on a trip on an isolated island. Which will be the 5 main things you’ll need to take with you?
And now, let’s dive together in a classical analogy: think about this book as it was your knapsack for a trip like this. What do you expect to have in it? Scientifically explanations? Samples of life? Practical advices? Wordplays? Mindset’s games?
INTROSPECTION / THE GAME OF ADVERSITY
Lucky you! The Game of Adversity offers to the readers the whole package in order to obtain a great reading adventure in the journey about how to overcome adversity.
So let’s browse together some pages of this book and have a small journey through Nick DiNardo’s approaches.
You will find in this article some of the greatest nuggets (visual quotes from books) and the summary of book.
But, first of all it is mandatory for us to ask the following question: who is Nick DiNardo?
As a reader, there is no need to introduce myself. Definitely he knows who I am. He wrote this book also for me, so he knows plenty of things about me. And about how I think or what I expect.
So, let’s get back to Nick DiNardo. Entrepreneur. Consultant. And also public speaker. During his career he was focused especially on techniques to overcome adversity, personal growth and education.
Most likely, his personal experiences were the main inspirational sources for his career choice. Life has taught him hard lessons, forced him to see opportunities in the most difficult moments. And that’s what makes this book. even more credible and strongly connected to reality.
Not incidentally did I bring this topic into discussion. I anticipate your next question: what is this book all about?
The Game of Adversity is about me, and you, and any friend of yours. Or relatives. In fact it is about each individual’s life, as it is: with great moments, but also challenging ones. This book awakens in our subconscious those resources that wisely help us to understand life. To understand how to handle distress and difficulties. How to overcome adversity and use it to our advantage. How to put in a new light failures and problems.
“To be happier, to be better people, and to lead greater lives, we desperately need adversity just like a dying man in a desert needs water.”
The book will take you gradually through all emotional levels.
“Your bike gets hit by a car?” This is just bad luck. But far from the worst thing in the world.
“No right hand”. I, personally, felt a pain in my stomach just thinking about this. But the next sentence is brilliant and brings the readers back to reality.
The goal is to make you see the way out from failures and also to reveal the hidden opportunities of any problem. The main tool is: to take you on a journey of diversity and help you experience different contexts. That’s how DiNardo explains the applicability of his advice.
Life is a game. If the game you have to play seems to be too challenging, that means you are a very good player. That’s why you were assigned directly to the expert level. So, what do you have to do? Rephrase unlucky. Look at the full half of the glass in a rational way. Turn all bad things into your favor.
No more “10 easy steps to achieve success”. No more “5 ways to stand out”. Instead, you’ll find here 14 chapters for this adversity journey:
- It all starts with adversity. DiNardo describes here three specific types of adversity:
- Bad luck – car accident? You can’t control it
- Bad choices – life is about the choices we make every day.Crossroads come in your path almost all the time
- Hero’s journey – there is an ebb and flow in life. Hero’s journey is the golden standard for adversity. This is about defeating your own fears, limitations. It’s about setting challenging milestones for yourself.
- The truth about handling a bad situation. “Handling adversity, and handle it well, is critical to channeling your experience to your personal advantage.”
- Nurture, nature, and reality. Nurture versus nature? How big is the difference between them? Are these connected in any way? The story of Louis Zamperini will help you understand this approach. This is not only a beautiful life story. This is about a kid who’s craving for attention. A story about transformation and how to be placed in the right spot.
- The adversity pyramid. The premise of this chapter: right skills in the right place for handling the right adversity. And there are 8 building blocks that help anyone handle adversity well:
- Process versus outcome
- Focus on what you can control
- Clarity of purpose
- Be grateful
- Standing on the shoulders of giants
- Be cool
- The growth mind-set. The 16 tenets Walsh’s coaching methodology may be important lessons for anyone. These may serve you as well as framework for any activity in life.
“Exhibit a ferocious and intelligently applied work ethic directed at continual improvement.”
“Take pride in my effort separate from the results of that effort.”
“Deal appropriately with victory, defeat, adulation and humiliation.”
- The sanctity of process. “Small wins give you the confidence to keep going, to keep growing, and to get yourself closer to where you want to go.” This nugget gives you a pretty good clue about what you’ll find in this chapter.
- The power of control. The Exercise #4 player 1 completely captured my attention. Give up or rephrase your failure? The analogy of the piano player with a video game player is brilliant. Best approach: you only were dropped in as Player 1. “Brainstorm a list of 10 things that are bothering you, and be honest […] start seeing where you can control the variables, and then get to work.”
- The science of self-awareness
“Be critical of yourself, but be fair.”
Two great exercises will help you understand better what self-awareness should mean for any of us.
- The clarity of purpose
“Life is not about getting from point A to point B. Adjust for the crosswind, to obstacles, barriers, and adversity that are part of the journey.”
- Standing on the shoulders of giants. You’ll leave this chapter with at least one main lesson well learned.
“In a very real sense, most of our heroes are our heroes because we see our potential embedded inside them”
- What it takes to be cool. Try to follow the 3 exercises from this chapter: creating a preparation plan, breathing, creating stakes. I bet that in the end you’ll jump to this conclusion:
“Preparation creates coolness.”
- The importance of feeling lucky. Right place to learn about the importance of gratitude. The reading will be even more challenging if you’ll pass the gratitude test and the “thank you” exercise.
- Life, adversity, and the road ahead. What is life? This is probably the most common Socratic question we are tempted to ask ourselves from time to time.
“Life is a tricky thing. Many people have their own views about what it means or what it is. […] life is more about doing our best to acquire wisdom”
- The thirty-day adversity challenge: this is a recap, schedule and practice chapter. Spend some extra moments to analyze the opportunity to improve yourself, your thoughts, and your mindset through these tips from Nick DiNardo. And then it’s time for some acknowledgements.
By reading this book, you’ll have the feeling that you are engaged in a fantastic game of thinking. You will “prepare” yourself for introspection. You will run through concepts and jump into reality. You’ll pass the ball of failures and catch the one of opportunities.
In this dynamic context you won’t be surprised not even for a moment by the many examples from sports you’ll find in Nick DiNardo’s book.
“Sports provide us with an amazing opportunity to learn about our character and how we have a choice to use these opportunities to grow or regress. “
“The greatest athletes are the ones who are focused on preparing for adversity, not avoiding it.”
So, did you understand now what this game of adversity is all about?
I know I do. Or, at least I know one thing for sure:
You fight for nothing, you expect nothing!
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